Is it okay to flirt with friends of the opposite sex when you haven a boyfriend? What does the Bible say about this?
Here is my answer. I do not understand why would someone want to flirt around when someone already had a boyfriend. The Bible does not have the exact answer but it gives us excellent advice. Phil 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy-meditate on these things.”
Flirting would result in heartaches and problems. Why arouse another person’s interest if you have no intention of interest and then quit the person’s relationship after he is being aroused? This would cause misunderstandings with your boyfriend if he were a possessive type. Even though, he (your boyfriend) may be liberal, but my advice to you is “stop flirting” make good use of your time. Build a good relationship with your boy friend and attend church or spend time reading the Bible. It has excellent counsel, promises and rich reward.
The Bible has lots of great love stories that you can follow and role model. Let me introduce to the love romantic story of King Solomon.
God is a God of love. He wants all His children to love and to be loved as He says in 1 John 4:7 & 8 "Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
In the book Song of Solomon the Bible describes a very romantic couple relationship. It is about a lady called Shulamite longing for the love of her lover. Song 1:2 "Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth. For your love is better than wine." Song 1:4 (last part) "…We will remember your love more than wine." From these verses we know that love is an instinct. God created us with love. Couple attracts each other with love. The last part of Song 2:5 "…For I am lovesick," When one lost a lover he/she will get lovesick. Song 2:6 & 8:3 says, "His left hand is under my head, and his right hand embraces me." Love is a natural process for couple relationship, as mentions in Song 2:7; 3:5; 8:4 "…Do not stir up nor awaken love until it pleases."
It is natural to desire for love. Song 6:13 "Return, return, O Shulamite; Return, return, that we may look upon you! Here Shulamite was yearning for her lover. In Song 7:10 "I am my beloved's and his desire is toward me." Song 4:10; 7:9 says that love is so enjoyful and wonderful "…like the best wine." Finally, couple relationship or love cannot be replaced or bought by wealth as mentions in Song 8:7 "…All the wealth of his house, It would be utterly despised."
Immediately, after God created the first man, Adam He created a woman, Eve for him for God says, "It is not good that man to be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him" Gen 2:18. Note the word 'comparable' meaning the woman is to correspond to the man. Each was to be suited to the other's need.
In Gen 2:21 - 23 "And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. " God chose man's companion from 'the rib bone' on man's bosom (his breast). God took the substance not from man's feet or toe that man might not have the excuse to degrade woman or trample her down and says, "Look you come from my feet or toe therefore, you have to serve me like a servant or slave." God neither chose man's companion from the man's head bone nor above his heart that the woman might says, "Look God made me above you for I am created from the bone on your skull, therefore, I have the authority over you." God made man from his own image and neither did he create both man and woman from any order of the lower animals. God created man and woman alike. Both are to compliment each other.
Listen to what Adam say as he received his wife from God in Gen 2:23 "And Adam said: 'This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.' "Here one knows that Adam loves his wife very much.
The Bible stated the great truth that 'two become one' and this is recognized by God. "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh" Gen 2:24.
This was the first marriage ordained by God. Even Jesus in Matthew 19:6 says, "So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man separate." God guarded the marriage relationship as a solemn and perpetuates vow. In Exodus 20:14,17. You shall not commit adultery. You shall not covet your neighbor's wife."
The first couple relationship or marriage institution was ordained by God before man sinned was not only for the purpose of peopling the earth and races as stated in Gen 1:28 "Be fruitful and multiply fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.." Marriage is also meant to promote social relationship and human happiness; to prevent irregular affection among men and women. Marriage is also meant to regulate well-organized homes and families so as to transmit the purity, holiness, and truth throughout the ages. However it is very sad that today men and women have abused God's goodness in ordaining the marriage relationship. Today, the world is a terrible place because of unruly action of breaking God's commandment of the holy matrimony that God has installed for men and women. That which rightly used is of greatest blessing, when abused as in today's world has become the greatest curse. As a result untold evils are sure to follow.
Hebrew 13:4 says, "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge." Today many people disregard marriage relationship as a sacred commitment and obligation. Its divine origin, its great object, and its possibilities and influences for good or evil are little thought of and thus many enter the holy matrimony without sacred obligations. Couple and relationship are totally ruined.
Couple relationship or marriage relationship is used in the Scriptures as a symbol of the relationship between God and men. (See Rom 7:1-4; 2 Corinthians 11:2; Hosea 2:19, 20. (Revelation 19:7).
Please read these texts about God’s great love for us: 1 John 4:7,8; 1 Cor. 13:1-13; 1 John 4:10-12; John 15:9.10; John 14:21; John 15:12-14,17; Mark 12:30,31,33; 1John 4:16,21; Jer.31: 3; John 16:27; Romans 5:8; John 3:16; Rom 8:38,39; John 13:34, 35.